People know the importance of good parenting, but what makes model parents? What do they do for their children that shows they are good parents?
Here, we unlock the mystery of good parenting with a list of 8 things good parents do for their children.
1. They provide guidance and support
To encourage their children to excel in school, parents typically push, nag, bribe, demand, or even threaten kids with punishment. Good parents know that providing kids with lots of support and giving them a little push when they need it will benefit them more than being an extremely strict mum or dad.
2. They encourage their kids to become independent
Good parents understand the value of teaching their children to take care of their own needs.
The best thing you can do is get your kids to a point where they can manage things on their own, whether it’s homework, housework, or making friends. It’s okay to assist your child when you do it with the intention of eventually teaching them to do things independently.
3. They model good behaviour children can emulate
Children learn from what they see, especially at home or from the behaviour of their parents. While it’s not always possible to be a perfect parent, it’s crucial to remember that if you want to have well-mannered, kind, and helpful children, you need to be respectful of others and on your best behaviour too.
4. They let their children know they are loved
Show and tell your kids you love them. Spend time with them. Write little notes or sweet messages for your kids and reassure them that you love them whenever you can. Doing these things will not only strengthen your bond as parent and child but also make them feel secure, accepted, and wanted for themselves.
5. They know when to say sorry
Being a good parent doesn’t mean you’ll be Mr or Ms Perfect. People make mistakes, and so can you. What’s important is you know how to own up to your mistakes, say sorry, and take responsibility for what you’ve done.
6. They know how to discipline their child effectively
Disciplining your child doesn’t mean punishing them. It entails making them realise what they did wrong and take responsibility for the consequences of their actions. Let your child know why something they did was wrong and how it affected them and other people. Take the time to explain things and come up with a disciplinary action that’s fair, such as grounding and withholding certain privileges.
7. They keep track of their children
Know what your kid is doing and with whom. Who are your children friends with? Do you know the other child’s parents? When your kids play at their friends’ houses, who will they meet and what things will they get exposed to? These are some enquiries you need to make before agreeing to a play date to ensure your children’s safety while they are not with you.
8. They listen
Parents frequently spend more time talking to their children than actually being with them. Instead, pay close attention and actively listen to your children. This way, you’ll get to know your children better and teach them the importance of listening in communication.
Perhaps you’re already doing one or some of these things. If not, it’s not too late.
All you need to do is start practising these tips and you’re on your way to becoming the best parent you can ever be.
If this article has inspired you to think about your own unique situation and, more importantly, what you and your family are going through right now, please contact your advice professional.